Re:A Buddhist monk confronts Japan's suicide culture (2013)
by 0xffff2 on Monday August 26, 2019 @04:01PM
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I think it's important to distinguish physical attraction from net total attraction. Usually when people say "attractive" they mean the former, but I think GP may mean the latter. I'm probably about average physically, but I have my own set of personality issues that make me pretty damn unattractive on the whole. I doubt I would be interested in anyone who was so fucked up that they were interested in me.
I've come to terms with my situation and I'm not the least be suicidal, but I think it's important to tread carefully when talking about this stuff online, where you have so little context. Someone who says "I'm never going to be an attractive man, so I'll never have love, or a wife and kids" has probably thought about it more than you have, and certainly knows their own situation much better than you do. I think it's extremely unhelpful to give them platitudes like "You are worthy". Maybe they are, but you're really not in a position to know.
Re:A Buddhist monk confronts Japan's suicide culture (2013)
by asveikau on Monday August 26, 2019 @04:23PM
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It's quaint that you think you cannot apply a nonphysical meaning for "attractive" to my comment and see that the point still stands.
I think you're probably wrong about yourself too.
And yes I did call out that I don't know the full circumstances.
Re:A Buddhist monk confronts Japan's suicide culture (2013)
by 0xffff2 on Monday August 26, 2019 @04:35PM
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And I think it's very presumptuous of you to think that you know my own circumstances better than I do. Both of your comments are, frankly, condescending to a degree I find slightly insulting and I have no further desire to continue this conversation.
This pops out to me.
I don't know your full circumstances but I don't think this is true.
If we focus only on the attractiveness aspect: I've known plenty of people of both genders who I thought were "unattractive" people (a very subjective term!) and they were partnered. If your desire is to find a partner, don't give up on it or consider it an inevitable failure! You are worthy.
Then it makes me consider if there's some other health issue preventing finding a partner or having a kid? Surely, a few of those exist, and I can imagine them being very sad.