This hardly matters because both of these types of crime usually happen within the family, not by the hand of strangers.

[0] murder: https://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/htus8008.pdf (page 16)

[1] rape: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/perpetrators-sexual-violenc...

Stats-wise, it would be best for the kids to stay clear of their family ;)