But it is ironic that someone would seek therapy to cope with a racist world, and but refuse service based on the race of the therapist.

Well, sure, but that's on them. The belief that a counselor will not be able to help you, for whatever reason, will generally be a self-fulfilling prophecy. I see no salient difference between a black person deciding that a white person can't help them because they are white, and a white person deciding that a black person can't help them because they are black. To me, both of those positions are equally odious. One thing I've learned first-hand over the years is that you can't help someone who won't help themselves.

Genuine question:

Are women who have been abused by men odious for seeking female therapists?

FWIW lisper mentioned that in another subthread at about the same time: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=20718590