Do you need to re-read my post? The entire point is that there are now multiple definitions of 'violence'. We mustn't pick and choose definitions to fit a particular narrative.

One definition of violence appears to be used when describing ER as 'non-violent'. But another, very different definition of violence appears to be used when declaring that mis-gendering someone is an act of violence.

Sorry for the very late reply. You're right, I must have skipped the rest of your comment.

My answer to this is to insist on the 'proper' definition - the one you yourself prefer - and to push back whenever the term is misused (I find this is generally done as a smearing tactic).

The alternative is to yield ground and to start saying 'physical violence' whenever one means 'violence'.