Ask HN: What people skills do you wish you learned earlier in your career?

Re:Ask HN: What people skills do you wish you learned earlie... by sametmax on Tuesday July 23, 2019 @09:39AM (#20506618)

I'll take a wild guess and say it's because your intellect is way more developed than your affect. Nothing wrong with that, but life is easier if you learn to use emotions instead of just living them.

It helps with making friends, negotiating, having sex, taking care of your health and overall improves the feeling of well-being. After all, if you perceive the world through mostly logic, it's easy to become cynical or be overwhelmed.

Meditation and psychedelics can help learning that if it's something you wish to invest in. Psychoanalysis as well. They all have different time frames, costs and shapes, so it's worth testing all of them. From several sources, given the huge difference in nature and quality of the providers.

It's a long process anyway, but 10 years in, I found it worth it for myself.

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Re:Ask HN: What people skills do you wish you learned earlie... by blaser-waffle on Tuesday July 23, 2019 @10:35AM (#20507029)

> I'll take a wild guess and say it's because your intellect is way more developed than your affect.

Interesting. I like that phrase.

> Meditation and psychedelics can help learning that if it's something you wish to invest in.

Meditation maybe, but I wouldn't recommend psychedelics to someone unless they knew what they were getting into. I knew some folks who had rough trips and were likely NOT BETTER people for the experience -- just DIFFERENT people.

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Re:Ask HN: What people skills do you wish you learned earlie... by sametmax on Tuesday July 23, 2019 @10:37AM (#20507039)

> From several sources, given the huge difference in nature and quality of the providers.

Set and setting is very important.

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