Re:Ask HN: What people skills do you wish you learned earlie...
by mparkola on Tuesday July 23, 2019 @12:12AM
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I agree! ;)
I try to make it more meaningful by saying why I agree with or like something in order to clarify the (prefferably shared) values behind my appreciation.
I've also recently used a torrent of appreciation (the Mesita strategy) to build up the self-esteem of a person struggling with self-confidence.
The trick is it has to be honest and at least somewhat meaningful to them (it's not good to compliment someone on things they don't value).
A really over the top example: complimenting a woman in the workplace on her looks. will definitely not be appreciated and these days might get you fired ;)
I try to make it more meaningful by saying why I agree with or like something in order to clarify the (prefferably shared) values behind my appreciation.
I've also recently used a torrent of appreciation (the Mesita strategy) to build up the self-esteem of a person struggling with self-confidence.
The trick is it has to be honest and at least somewhat meaningful to them (it's not good to compliment someone on things they don't value).
A really over the top example: complimenting a woman in the workplace on her looks. will definitely not be appreciated and these days might get you fired ;)