I tried to use many words, so let me try using fewer:

• “solar eclipse = sun gets darkened” is only appearance, not reality.

• “lunar eclipse = moon gets darkened” is both appearance and reality.

(I can guess what the response is going to be: either “that's not what ‘eclipse’ means”/“why care about that?”, or “but the sun does get darkened, as viewed from earth”. Thus the conversation goes in circles. Really I should stop; I've said all this already.)

No, my response would be that when something "gets darkened" the mechanisms by which that can happen depend on whether the thing "getting darkened" is a source of light like the sun, or merely a reflector, like the moon. But both phenomena are fully fledged components of reality.