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Re:Ask HN: How do I make sure my kids are safe online? by nicoburns on Monday May 27, 2019 @07:45PM (#20026077)
IMO, knowledge of sexual activity comes from education and trust, not from monitoring. I know several teenagers whose parents didn't know about their sexual activity until much later than it started, even though the parents thought they were monitoring for it.

Others have a conversation with their parents before they start, because they trust them. Those are the parents you want to be.

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Re:Ask HN: How do I make sure my kids are safe online? by prepend on Tuesday May 28, 2019 @04:56AM (#20028371)
IMO, kids need help understanding the world and doing the right thing. I think this, like much of parenting, comes down to anecdote swapping and so it’s part of the struggle to learn about how to do well.

I don’t know what kind of parents I want to be and wish I had the certainty you do in this area.

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Re:Ask HN: How do I make sure my kids are safe online? by nicoburns on Tuesday May 28, 2019 @07:08PM (#20035313)
I've seen kids (and adults for that matter!) pretty much universally respond well to people who treat them with respect, and as an equal (in principle if not experience) partner in their growth process.

I agree that kids need help understanding the world. My point is that they will accept it (and even seek it) if they are respected and trusted.

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