For a second there I assumed you were talking about HN.

Eh, as long as you take a bit of care to make the question come across as genuine and not as snark or feigning lack of knowledge to draw out a comment to be hostile to (which people here are often primed to interpret things as), I think you'll generally either get a useful response and upvotes or no response.

Working around other people's hangups is a real pain, but that's basically what a large portion of participating in a pseudo-anonymous internet forum is about, unfortunately.

Yeah, if someone says here, "do you have any examples to share?" then it can be hard to distinguish between an honest request for details vs. a passive aggressive way of saying "I think you're an idiot who can't back up their claims"

I've felt the same way here many times. Although I'm trying to keep it under control now. I understand the mods motivation a little bit better