Re:Ask HN: How do you deal with or stop escapism?
by JohnFen on Friday May 24, 2019 @02:27PM
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I don't have an actual method, personally, but years of experience has shown me time and time again that real problems will, sooner or later, force you to deal with them. If you avoid a problem until you have no choice but to deal with it, that problem will be orders of magnitude worse, more painful, and more difficult to resolve.
So when a problem comes my way, I remind myself of this and make a conscious decision to deal with it immediately out of a sense of self-preservation.
The tricky part is that not all problems are real problems. Some are pseudoproblems that will eventually just evaporate. In the moment, it can be hard to tell which is which. I choose to deal with them anyway, on the basis that resolving a pseuodproblem does no real harm, but not resolving a real problem does.
So when a problem comes my way, I remind myself of this and make a conscious decision to deal with it immediately out of a sense of self-preservation.
The tricky part is that not all problems are real problems. Some are pseudoproblems that will eventually just evaporate. In the moment, it can be hard to tell which is which. I choose to deal with them anyway, on the basis that resolving a pseuodproblem does no real harm, but not resolving a real problem does.