Just change the question to? Are you OK with us continuing in my room because blah blah, otherwise we can just do it in the lobby.
Basically, you give them power to decide where they feel comfortable most. Especially first time around.
“Can you come to my room in 30m to do blah” is an order basically, so as a result you already create hostile situation irrelevant of gender.
Re:Men, commit to mentor women
by slowmovintarget on Tuesday May 21, 2019 @05:53AM
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That's still no good (opinion, not statement of fact).
Just suggest the lobby, or find a coffee shop. It may be annoying, but now you're not putting any burden on her at all. If she suggests an alternative, you can use your judgement, but why even put that on her in the first place?
Maybe more realistic scenario is just when working away asking "Can you come to my room so we can spend 30 mins updating the deck for tomorrow?"
Think I'd have been fine asking that previously - and now maybe less so. We can try to lurk in a corner of the lobby, which is annoying loud and doesn't have a desk.
But that change involves the thought of "maybe I'm considered to be a creepy male" - and that's not a nice thought to have (although probably good for me).