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A comment on Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve?.

Re:Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve? by prakhar987 on Monday May 20, 2019 @11:26AM (#19961336)
I believe being anti social and lacking confidence has been advantageous to me. When i was in college, i was hesitant to go out due to low self esteem and depression. So i would spend my time alone while others had a social life. But during times like semester examinations, i was able to study with no distraction. Today i have a CS degree from a top college and i work as a Quant. To outsiders my life seems perfect but i know its not. But i have come to accept the fact that you can't have everything. To gain some you have to lose some. When someone asks me you have good money why can't you find a girl, i think to myself i couldn't find a girl so i have good money. Might not be the case for everyone, but i have come to peace with my shortcomings and try to see the good in worst situations.
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Re:Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve? by penguin_booze on Monday May 20, 2019 @01:52PM (#19963055)
> ... being anti social ...

I prefer the term 'asocial'. Antisocial, in most contexts, means actively engaging in activities against society--like vandalism.

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Re:Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve? by Ihfhcub on Monday May 20, 2019 @01:42PM (#19962919)
Your hard work now might pay off more socially later in life. Also social skills and lifestyle are not fixed in stone
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Re:Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve? by newnewpdro on Tuesday May 21, 2019 @04:06PM (#19974334)
For better or worse, if you take good care of yourself, are debt-free and have money, women will find you.

Do yourself a favor and don't marry the first one out of a sense of desperation, there's plenty to go around.

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Re:Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve? by vorpalhex on Monday May 20, 2019 @11:50AM (#19961653)
You are not a fixed point. You contain in yourself the ability to change and grow as much as you're willing to. It is not an either/or kind of situation, you may indeed have both.
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