There's probably a way to phrase that without implying that HN is a "gentleman's-only" club. (With every romantic interest we entertain?) Or that the learning is limited to the 15-30 age range -- I know people my father's age who are learning some very painful lessons in this department...

Regardless, the point has merit, and in either context you can't win (or even gain the experience you need to win) unless you're in the game. :)