Re:Ask HN: How do you make friends in a new city?
by Jtsummers on Tuesday May 07, 2019 @08:26AM
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That's a good way of looking at it.
And yeah, sometimes it can be demoralizing when people don't show to something I've put a lot of time into. But that's also why I've learned how to find easier social events to plan. The town I live in does a First Friday thing (more live music, art exhibits, etc.). I just throw the invite out to a bunch of people, if they show they show. Same for movies and other things. At some point a small "inner circle" or whatever forms, that's the group that'll stick around for a while. Some may just be more into going out, others will be close friends. But at least you've got the group started. It'll grow from there, especially if you can find a couple more socially outgoing people who enjoy planning.
And yeah, sometimes it can be demoralizing when people don't show to something I've put a lot of time into. But that's also why I've learned how to find easier social events to plan. The town I live in does a First Friday thing (more live music, art exhibits, etc.). I just throw the invite out to a bunch of people, if they show they show. Same for movies and other things. At some point a small "inner circle" or whatever forms, that's the group that'll stick around for a while. Some may just be more into going out, others will be close friends. But at least you've got the group started. It'll grow from there, especially if you can find a couple more socially outgoing people who enjoy planning.