Re:Ask HN: Advice on balancing family life at a startup
by lm28469 on Monday May 06, 2019 @03:59AM
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> I feel guilty leaving the company and the team, and worried it could really set the company back at this crucial stage.
You shouldn't feel guilty of that. You get one chance at life, a job is a job, it's here to bring money to take care of yourself / your loved ones. What's the point of working if you don't even get time to take care of your family ?
Try to project yourself in 20 years, what will you think looking back at this decision ? "I'm sad I let down my company" or "I'm sad I let down my family" ?
Especially as engineer, it's not like it's your only career possibility. You can fuck up professionally 10 times in a row without a major impact on your life, you don't get to fuck up your family life.
Also, what @ossie said, if you can find a balance without leaving the startup, go for it.
You shouldn't feel guilty of that. You get one chance at life, a job is a job, it's here to bring money to take care of yourself / your loved ones. What's the point of working if you don't even get time to take care of your family ?
Try to project yourself in 20 years, what will you think looking back at this decision ? "I'm sad I let down my company" or "I'm sad I let down my family" ? Especially as engineer, it's not like it's your only career possibility. You can fuck up professionally 10 times in a row without a major impact on your life, you don't get to fuck up your family life.
Also, what @ossie said, if you can find a balance without leaving the startup, go for it.