The dark side of open source conferences [about women being harassed]

Re:The dark side of open source conferences [about women bei... by kolektiv on Friday December 03, 2010 @10:21AM (#1966112)

To clarify, if you're flirting with someone, yes they may flirt back and perhaps "make a pass" at you. In this case however, she was not flirting with this guy. Just because someone is flirting with other people, does not make them open to flirting with you. If they wanted to be flirting with you, they would be already.

Someone being flirtatious with others is not a green light for you to make a pass. Not if they're not flirting with you. Even then, there's still plenty of nuance and context which would determine whether that's acceptable.

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Re:The dark side of open source conferences [about women bei... by ErrantX on Friday December 03, 2010 @10:26AM (#1966132)

Oh I agree.

In this case he was in the wrong all the way; but you could put down everything up to the kiss as misguided, or confused or as simply idiotic behaviour. Guys get funny around flirty girls and make stupid choices.

But action after the clear rebuff is a different matter (and this was sorta the point I was trying to make but it got a bit bogged down).

(on re-reading, in this case, I'd only excuse the bit up to the kiss in this case, he seems to have forced the kiss instead of just going for it [if that follows]).

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