Here's an example day at BigCorp:
- Rise at 9am because standup isn't until 10am
- 10 minute commute since you're paid well enough to live near the office
- Arrive at work at 10am
- 1 hour lunch break at 12pm
- Leave work early at 4pm to miss the gym rush
- Get home by 6pm, enjoy the rest of the day until midnight
Versus RemoteCorp:
- Rise at 6am, immediately start working since you're online
- Work through lunch and eat your desk because you don't have a separate space
- Don't clock off at 5pm because you're always on. Keep checkin in on emails until 10-11pm
- Don't go outside at all because you never changed out of your pajamas. Sunlight seen: 0. People talked to: 0.
I definitely know which I prefer.
Some of that is undoubtedly controlled by the job itself, but some is usually also controlled by you and the boundaries you choose to set for your job.
I worked at a BigCorp and it was one of the worst years of my life. The work/life balance was awful, and the pay was shit compared to the hours I put in and satisfaction I got out of the job. All other experiences I've had have been much more satisfying.
On top of this, people think BigCorp is a safe bet where a startup is not, but BigCorp lays people off in large swaths all the time because their stock price moves a millimeter in some random direction.
My team was acquhired as a "startup within a larger company!!1" which ended up meaning: lower pay, longer hours, no equity, no actual autonomy.
But I was young and foolish and, caving to peer pressure, decided against my better judgement to take the gig. After my 1 year cliff (and successfully launching the Editions app that they soon after shitcanned) I got the fuck out.
EDIT: keep in mind, my hours were a product of my specific team, and the fact that I was commuting from Santa Cruz to Palo Alto. It would have likely been a regular 9-5 on other teams, and I'm pretty sure most of the other people there had regular hours.
I once got a dressing down from my director because I took a PTO day after working 20 days straight. I am so glad I don't work there anymore.
I know some people who go back home for a quick lunch or disappear for an hour in between. Many of these companies only care about you getting your work done and being present for all the meetings.
Ofc, there are just as many where your case applies. But, it is certainly not the norm for FAANG-eque companies
Disagree here for one specific type of startup...remote (which I know you mentioned).
Here's an example day at BigCorp:
- Rise and shine at 5am to work out early enough
- Leave the house by 7am
- 1+ hour commute into work
- Start work at 8am
- Stay until 8pm
- Get on/in the car, train, bus for a 1+ hour commute home
- Late dinner around 9pm
- Veg out because you're exhausted and go to bed by 11pm
Here's an example day at RemoteStartup:
- Rise at 7am to work out
- Make breakfast at 8am
- Standup at 8:30 while eating breakfast
- Work until 5pm
- Spend some family time and eat dinner until 8pm
- Work another 2 hours before bed around 10pm
The work life balance in scenario #2 is far and away more desirable to most people.