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Re:A guide to difficult conversations by marshray on Tuesday March 26, 2019 @08:10PM (#19497095)
Sure, restating what someone just told you about how they are feeling "What I hear you saying is ..." can start to sound mechanical.

But consider the alternative: most people never actually get any acknowledgement of their thoughts and feelings. They are fully expecting to just be ignored and responded to with the argument that the other party was building in their head while they were talking.

The Mom was preparing GGGP to expect people to give a sh*t when he speaks, he just hasn't realized it yet.

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Re:A guide to difficult conversations by andrei_says_ on Monday April 01, 2019 @01:50PM (#19546004)
Again, I disagree. The owner of the emotional response is fully qualified to judge it. Dismissing this as “not getting it yet” is not something I agree with or let slide.

His own response was annoyance and disappointment with the mechanical approach. He did not experience connection and he did not feel understanding. That’s pretty much the perfect example of empty words vs true connection.

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