That doesn't really sound anything like misdirected stoicism... that's just being a garden variety asshole.

There seems to be significant overlap between the two populations. SV “Stoics” are not the most loveable or even tolerable folks, and it’s not a shock that they draw a degree of scorn, mockery and ire. Where I think that reaction goes wrong is that assigns to malice what is more properly explained by a combination of cluelessness and a lack of social skills. Instead of blaming the cogs who drank the Kool-Aid I wish people would direct their scorn to the people pulling their strings.

Recognize it for what it is, a pseudo intellectual means of control for a group that would be largely unmoved by more common religious, or social structures. It’s also a coping mechanism for people working jobs they hate in a place they can’t really afford, while surrounded by the lottery winners of their field.