Re:A guide to difficult conversations
by nabla9 on Tuesday March 26, 2019 @08:25AM
(#19491078)
Not denying responsibility is essential to NVC.
It's patronizing if you have made your mind and only involve others into discussions to get support or ease them into going along and accepting. "I have to do X, I'm here to listen how you feel about X and empathize with you." is not real NVC. "Have to" is denying responsibility to outside conditions.
NVC is best used when you have to do something and have a problem and are willing to communicate it to others as way to learn and find a solutions..
It's patronizing if you have made your mind and only involve others into discussions to get support or ease them into going along and accepting. "I have to do X, I'm here to listen how you feel about X and empathize with you." is not real NVC. "Have to" is denying responsibility to outside conditions.
NVC is best used when you have to do something and have a problem and are willing to communicate it to others as way to learn and find a solutions..