Re:A guide to difficult conversations
by motohagiography on Tuesday March 26, 2019 @08:40AM
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That's the key I think. Appreciated. By putting your universal needs on the same level (not your "self"), you are in effect appealing to principle, so there is likely a great deal of alignment between the methods as described. Looking forward to reading up more on this. Thank you.
Hey, just wanna point out your commenting style is tremendously good. Somehow each one has all the ingredients of a great comment for a discussion. Thanks for the effort!
Re:A guide to difficult conversations
by motohagiography on Tuesday March 26, 2019 @09:41AM
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That's a kind observation. If I worked for you that would be really satisfying to hear...
This is why it's important to be conscientious about spirals of passive aggression with this communication style. Mastering it is mastery, trying is, well, doing it wrong. Great thread.
Re:A guide to difficult conversations
by newacct8086 on Tuesday March 26, 2019 @11:50AM
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"I use NVC frequently to people with a lot more power than me ..."
Examples? I'm struggling to understand how one could "frequently" have to use NVC with "people a lot more power".
Having to do this frequently itself is a problem with the organization, right?
Re:A guide to difficult conversations
by andrei_says_ on Tuesday March 26, 2019 @12:05PM
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Any conversation involving appreciation or a request can benefit from the principles of nvc which can be made in natural language.
I use NVC frequently to people with a lot more power than me, and I'd actually suggest NVC is actually about putting yourself (and your needs) on the same level as those of the person your speaking with.
The fundamental premise is that fundamental needs are shared by all humans... and the ideal strategy is one where all needs are met.
So, you can avoid patronising someone by truly seeking to understand the other person's feelings and needs without judgement and taking those needs seriously. Again, easy to say, hard to do.