Multiple times I have gotten shocked reactions when they discover after several conversations that I have never played World of Warcraft, or watched Doctor Who, because we have been talking about it for so long. This is usually because the more isolated someone is the less questions they ask and they more 1-way the conversation is, but it can result in hurt feelings if they feel mislead. So now I am sure to position myself early as interested but not experienced for whatever made up reason.
This not only helps them connect with someone, but has given me the most fascinating insights into the thought process, inner lives, and domain expertise of people very different from me. But I also wonder if this intense listening, but not participating psychological voyeurism is part of my own personality disorder... and preventing me from fully engaging with the world.
I took this strange passion so far that I attempted to make a startup where semi-famous people read Audio Books from OTHER authors, and then paused in between chapters to give you their reflections on what they had just read.
I have my own slant, so sure, i am agreeing with points that articulate my own feelings better than I have. But even if you disagree there has to be some mechanism for elevating a dialogue, and i think that's one.
In my own personal experience, people who had or fit the diagnostic model were socially isolated, basically unfulfilled and uncomfortable in some way, and i could see that by the way they engaged verbally and i was happy to engage back wherever i could. Sure; i don't actually want to talk about star wars novels or what snack foods someone ate 20 years ago at summer camp for two hours. But sometimes if you are socially isolated too, it can feel good just to know you gave someone else the chance to open up and be animated. That requires an investment though, and i can understand how tired a "normal" person would get of doing that essentially as charity.
But you guys sure could have been more charitable in the discussion here, and not so deeply polarized. My experience with mental health issues is that they polarize people kind of abusively. You guys are generally the smartest and most mature place i can go to lurk a discussion. I'm sad to see that personal stake being used against that comity and intellectual atmosphere.