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Re:Ask HN: What advice messed up your life? by wallflower on Friday November 26, 2010 @11:53PM (#1944321)
> If you just assume the people there WANT to be your friend, you don't look needy and your extroverted side comes out, and you can still be yourself.

Sadly, I believe most introverts are pretty selfish - worrying what other people think of them when, in reality, most everyone is not thinking of them - and may not even notice them.

Another thing about Introverts - with most extroverts, it is fairly easy to figure out who a person is or at least who they primarily represent themselves as. With an introvert, a stranger is going to have to invest a lot more in getting to know who an introvert is - that's exhausting to some people - why expend energy figuring out the quiet ones when you can have fun talking to the loud ones.

Re:Ask HN: What advice messed up your life? by berntb on Saturday November 27, 2010 @12:30AM (#1944376)
>>I believe most introverts are pretty selfish - worrying what other people think of them

WTF? :-)

Did that come out wrong? Are you a non-native English speaker and don't know the word "selfish"?

That kind of worrying is normal insecurity. If you up the ante with e.g. unusual clothes, non-introvert people wills start worrying like that too. Introverts just start doing it at a lower threshold.