What you have written doesn’t look at all symmetrical but d1 | d2 looks very symmetrical. Operators being symmetrical around a vertical axis tends to imply being commutative (although there are many exceptions e.g. a divide symbol (but note fractions aren’t symmetrical) or a minus sign or using ^ for exponentiation (but superscripting is not symmetrical) or matrix multiplication (but maybe one could argue this is an abbreviation of function application))

Secondly I claim that the issue with using | is that it is not a new operator. It is a new, incompatible meaning for an old operator. Old code might not bother checking that its arg is a set because of it weren’t a set then | or in would fail. New programmers might see dicts as being basically sets and wrongly assume functions for sets would correctly work on dicts.