You may want to look into Pathological Demand Avoidance. It's very new, and has basically no awareness outside of the UK, but it seems to describe a class of people (including myself), who exhibit symptoms similar to people who are classically autistic or have aspergers, but with much better social skills.

Webpage: https://www.autism.org.uk/about/what-is/pda.aspx

Book: https://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Pathological-Avoidance-...