I think that it is ok to talk openly about difficulties and challenges one faces. Talking and analyzing helps with dealing with shit. It is uncomfortable to hear about difficulties of other people, but imo, adults should be able to cope what that.

Blaming moms for autistic kids is how it used to be done. It did not helped kids nor moms. Kids and moms being silent and accepting blame did nothing to solve their problems.

Why would someone "raising victim flag" bothered you?