> SQL is troublesome to some programming types because it seems alien to ask what you want instead of telling the computer what to do and I find most programmers, especially ASD-types (who I think have an edge for some situations, like writing certain code in a huge org like Google) find this an unfamiliar and strange way of thinking.

That's basically how most tools work outside of software development. When you use Google, you aren't telling it how to find your result; you're telling it what you want.