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Re:The Bleak Reality of the Instagram Experience by philg_jr on Tuesday February 05, 2019 @11:32AM (#19086840)
Try being a single dude in your 20s/early 30s without some "social proof" when trying to talk to 30 and younger girls. They will immediately think you are a weirdo for not having that proof that you're not some sort of loner. I personally use ig for posting things that give me a little more edge over normal dudes - my Olympic weightlifting progress, my trips snowboarding/surfing, my cute dogs, music festivals/shows that I got to...it's helpful. but I'm not gonna post on there about the new Jenkinsfile that I spent a week crafting to deploy a 10 microservices for a state machine. RIP Google+, the Instagram for geeks.
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Re:The Bleak Reality of the Instagram Experience by saberience on Tuesday February 05, 2019 @12:38PM (#19087469)
Are you joking? I'm 35 and regularly date girls (in SoCal) with an age range of 22 through 28 or so. I have an instagram account which I never use and has about 8 photos on it from years ago. No one ever asks me to show my instagram account and I never mention it. I have tons of "dating success."

So your theory of "social proof" through Instagram doesn't seem valid at all for me. Note: I don't have an active FB account either. So basically, I manage to successfully date many 20-something women with basically zero social media.

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Re:The Bleak Reality of the Instagram Experience by wolco on Tuesday February 05, 2019 @02:12PM (#19088662)
Wow things have become easy to gamify for the average guy. Back in the day the girl had to know you from a friend or work and demand real social proof.

With a few well placed pictures maybe a mention from an influencer I can get thousands of girls prevalidated to hookup with.

Someone will come out with an app soon: InstraLife, selects a target account ig account pulls in similiar photos and creates a mirror profile.. also follows most active users from target's profile..

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Re:The Bleak Reality of the Instagram Experience by eertami on Tuesday February 05, 2019 @01:09PM (#19087855)
That's... not something I or anyone I know has ever experienced. Maybe they assume you could be weird for some other reason, and Instagram gives you a lifeline? But again noone I know without Instagram has had any issue dating.

I think it says a lot more about you and the people you're interested in, than the people who don't have Instagram.

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Re:The Bleak Reality of the Instagram Experience by ablation on Tuesday February 05, 2019 @01:01PM (#19087761)
I think you might be trying to "talk to" the wrong kind (or a very specific kind) of people if they'll only engage with you after receiving some social proof via Instagram. In my anecdotal experience, I've never heard of experienced such a situation.
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