If planes were built as shoddily as software is, even software that has massive material impact on people's lives, we'd have a lot more crashing planes, and a lot more people angry about it. And we have a huge group (a majority even) of software devs that are completely fine with the status quoa of how crap software is.

As a software person, I have absolutely no issue with telling other software people to do their job better, and I see no shortage of people that aren't even trying on that front.

Its your comparison between a process that takes safety, reliability and a reduction of harm as a core, first value, and a process that cares first about money, and second about novelty and somewhere way down the line people, maybe, that is offensive frankly.