The money, job, marriage myth: are you happy yet?

Re:The money, job, marriage myth: are you happy yet? by Baeocystin on Monday January 07, 2019 @02:41PM (#18849163)

Speaking strictly for myself, I have not found this to be true. I do enjoy collecting skills, and learning is fun. But no matter what the skill, eventually you hit the wall of diminishing returns, and I find that pride in that last 1-2% of performance is not worth the cost in time; I would rather improve a weaker skill another 10-20% with the same amount of training. And fundamentally, I find pride a bit too solipsistic to be truly satisfying no matter what the skill.

What I have found permanently effective is practicing gratefulness. Every day I make it a point to think of things that I am genuinely grateful to have, or to have experienced. This (for me), more than anything else, helps put my mind at ease, and allow me to enjoy the life that I have.

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Re:The money, job, marriage myth: are you happy yet? by marmadukester39 on Monday January 07, 2019 @03:32PM (#18849692)

I agree. The challenge for me has been that in practicing gratitude I find myself fearing the loss of the things for which I am grateful even more.

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Re:The money, job, marriage myth: are you happy yet? by Baeocystin on Monday January 07, 2019 @08:47PM (#18852309)

I can't say I am 100% great at following my own advice, here, but I do find that it helps to try and focus on experiences that I am grateful for instead of physical things, and for much the same reason as what you give- you can't have experiences taken away in the same manner as a physical thing.

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