Re:Ask HN: I’ve got a well paying job, but I’m depressed, wh...
by sethammons on Friday December 14, 2018 @10:14AM
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I had a two+ hour commute per day (each way). Did it for _years_. The difference being that I really like my co-workers. A couple of thoughts:
Ask if you can go part time remote. Like two days. That made things so much better. I also was able to commute a large segment by train, and that helped. Eventually I went full remote, and miss my time in the office (bit really like my 30 second commute!).
Strive to get 360 reviews in place. It allows for anonymous feedback on stengths and areas where you can grow. You might get back some places where you can get better professionally and with interpersonal stuff and you might learn what people value about you.
Talk with your manager about your concerns. Y'all should be having regular one on ones.
Leverage the commute. Audiobooks for entertainment or something you want to learn more about. If you can do public transportation, work on something fun.
Realize life requires balance. Have fun. Do things. Be around and interact with people. Work on yourself, take up an exercise regiment involving lifting weights.
Know that a job is a job. Prioritize you and your family.
Ask if you can go part time remote. Like two days. That made things so much better. I also was able to commute a large segment by train, and that helped. Eventually I went full remote, and miss my time in the office (bit really like my 30 second commute!).
Strive to get 360 reviews in place. It allows for anonymous feedback on stengths and areas where you can grow. You might get back some places where you can get better professionally and with interpersonal stuff and you might learn what people value about you.
Talk with your manager about your concerns. Y'all should be having regular one on ones.
Leverage the commute. Audiobooks for entertainment or something you want to learn more about. If you can do public transportation, work on something fun.
Realize life requires balance. Have fun. Do things. Be around and interact with people. Work on yourself, take up an exercise regiment involving lifting weights.
Know that a job is a job. Prioritize you and your family.