If people simply said “paper is good, we should use paper instead of counting boards” that would be fine. But instead they always make up nonsense about how pen and paper long division is stupidly cumbersome if your only tool is pen and paper and you write your numbers as Roman numerals, or whatever.
Or perhaps you are saying it nonsense to start the discussion with the implicit assumption that the available tool is pen and paper, and not a counting board.
Yes, that is right. Roman numerals do not make much sense in a paper-centric context where we have ditched counting boards. Any algorithms you might invent for working with Roman numerals on paper are anachronistic. Comparing invented straw-man uses of Roman numerals against real uses of Hindu–Arabic numerals is not fair or useful.
It’s like making an argument that Lassie and Perry Mason are “better” than Verdi operas on the basis that the opera set designs are too elaborate and colorful, the action is too spread out, and the commercial breaks don’t flow with the story when you try to show the opera on small black and white TVs from the 1950s.
But we care about both representing numbers and computing with them. So I don't think it makes sense to say its not fair to point out the drawbacks of a system that can't do both.