That's the Christian orthodox view btw -- that you make your own hell by your stance and action (in which view, hell is not an actual place, even in another dimension, with fire pits and demons, but just your resentment and the distance you feel from God's love).
". . . those who find themselves in hell will be chastised by the scourge of love. How cruel and bitter this torment of love will be! For those who understand that they have sinned against love, undergo no greater suffering than those produced by the most fearful tortures. The sorrow which takes hold of the heart, which has sinned against love, is more piercing than any other pain. It is not right to say that the sinners in hell are deprived of the love of God . . . But love acts in two ways, as suffering of the reproved, and as joy in the blessed!" (Saint Isaac of Syria).
Learn more: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traditionalist_Catholicism
There was once a general who asked the Zen master Hakuin:"Are there really such things as Heaven and Hell?"
"What do you do for a living?" Hakuin asked him.
"I'm a general."
"Ha, ha, ha! What idiot asked you to be his general? You look more like a butcher to me", the Zen master teased the general.
"I'll cut you to pieces!" the general angrily pulled his sword.
"Here lie the gates of Hell!" said the master.
"Excuse me...Please forgive my insolence.”
And Hakuin said:"Here lie the gates of Heaven."
Heaven and Hell aren't places that suddenly appear after death. They exist here and now. Good and evil involve just a single instant of thought, and the gates of Heaven and Hell are ready to open for you at any time. (From Zen Stories: The Staff and Shout of the Venerable Ones)
Pride ruined the angels,
Their shame them restores;
Lurks the joy that is sweetest
In stings of remorse.
-- from Ralph Waldo Emerson's "The Sphinx"https://www.ancientfaith.com/podcasts/hopko/the_descent_of_j...
Here's a quote:
> So we determine whether we are in hell or not by our own belief or unbelief, by our love of love, and our love of light, and our love of truth, and our love of glory, or by our hatred of it. That has nothing to do with Jesus, the Christ, the Son of God, who died for us. When He descended into Sheol and Hades, it means simply that He died, and through death, trampled down death and raised the dead, all the dead, there is no one left in the tomb, as it says. In St. John Chrysostom’s sermon on Paschal night, he said, “No one is left in the tomb. Christ is risen and life reigns.” But if you hate that life, it is hell. If you love it, it is Paradise.
Posted something similar from early christian theology in the same thread.
I guess some people think they will never become feeble, that they will maintain the power to keep the evil stuff separate from the rest of their life. But we are all enfeebled in the end.