Kudos for making the effort to understand. At the same time, I think we can empathize that part of the minority experience is forever having to explain, and not being able to simply exist.

From the Miles Davis album A Tribute to Jack Johnson:

> "I'm Jack Johnson, heavyweight champion of the world. I'm black. They never let me forget it. I'm black all right. I'll never let them forget it."

I know that in order to talk to someone you need to learn the language.

Otherwise you're the stereotype of an English speaker going to a foreign country and insisting that people can understand you if you JUST TALK LOUDER.

You don't even seem to be doing the equivalent of picking up a tourist book containing a few phrases to say.