> Are you seriously telling me that I have to be open about everything I do, and that when I don't want to, then I'm doing something illegal or morally objectionable?

No on both accounts. I did not suggest or say that you had to share everything you do. Not even close. I also didn't come anywhere close to suggesting that if you don't want people finding out what you are doing it's wrong. I'd avoid the straw man if I where you. =)

What I am saying is that if you do something, chances are someone can find out. It's as simple as that.

Let's go with your herpes medication that you buy that you don't want any to find out about. If you don't want anyone to find out about you buying herpes medicine, don't buy any. Otherwise, someone is going to find out. In this case, it will be the company that sells you the herpes medicine at the very least.

Hopefully this clears things up.