Why are you determined to identify a subtext in my remarks? First monogamy, now self-denial - you're disputing ideas which I don't hold. There are a good many people in open or group relationships who are happy, stable and committed to each other as they are, rather than on a conditional basis. People generally don't carefully engineer temptation out of their lives by signalling in such detail.

The belief that others' cognitive processes are essentially similar to one's own is called projection bias, BTW.