Re:Ask HN: Women who've applied to YC?
by sahillavingia on Sunday October 24, 2010 @10:39PM
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I don't really have the experience to comment, but if that would destroy your marriage, are you sure your marriage isn't destroyed already...?
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Were someone to ignore their issues or hide them from their partner, I would claim it destroys the relationship more than anything else. But admitting one's flaws? As much as you may judge someone for a lack of self-control, you have a respect the honesty it takes to admit to your S.O. that you lack that self control.
Even moreso, it's a very strong indication of your commitment to the other person when, after admitting your lack of self-control, you consciously choose not to put yourself in those situations because you know how much it would hurt your S.O.
tl;dr; - A relationship where both parties are honest with each other and ok with the situation after being fully informed is the strongest possible relationship.
consciously choose not to put yourself in those situations
What do you call this, if not flirting with the idea?
We both entered into this relationship with a full understanding of our proclivities. I knew that he couldn't stand to see me with another man; he knew that I have the impulse control of flea. Marriage isn't about being perfect for each other, it's about making a commitment to make it work. This is how we make it work.
This is just like using StayFocusd or maxvisit; you know you don't have the willpower, so you use other means to keep yourself productive (or faithful, in this case.)
Heck I couldn't stand to be in SF for 3 months without reading HN and there isn't even an orgasm involved.
Re:Ask HN: Women who've applied to YC?
by ramidarigaz on Sunday October 24, 2010 @11:10PM
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I think it's good to recognize that every relationship has limits. It's incredibly idealistic/naive to assume otherwise (I wish life worked that way though).