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Re:American Mercenaries Were Hired to Assassinate Politician... by nostrademons on Tuesday October 16, 2018 @06:22PM (#18233805)
In Silicon Valley it's terrible, largely because of the skewed gender ratio, gender-segregated employment & hobbies, and culture of working all the time. Even if you get a date and have time to go on it there's a good chance you'll have nothing to talk with her about.

In most other cities (even just going an hour north to SF) it's fine. "Software engineer" used to have a nerd stigma a generation ago, but that hasn't been the case in a decade or more, and nerds can do fine with women.

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Re:American Mercenaries Were Hired to Assassinate Politician... by staticautomatic on Tuesday October 16, 2018 @06:33PM (#18233883)
A) First date is mostly about listening. B) If 100% of your hobbies and life interests are gender-specific things that you can't talk about on dates, you might wanna branch out a little. C) A and B also apply to women.
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Re:American Mercenaries Were Hired to Assassinate Politician... by nostrademons on Tuesday October 16, 2018 @07:16PM (#18234116)
Well, I'm happily married and my wife is a Silicon Valley native, so ultimately I "succeeded" at the dating game.

It was pretty miserable while I was in it, though. Silicon Valley is not really a place where the culture encourages "branching out a little", nor does it attract people who are interested in that. This is self-reinforcing: people who were born here and aren't interested in tech tend to move up to SF/Berkeley/Oakland while they're single, which have greater cultural diversity.

I was in some sense lucky: I met my wife when she had recently moved back from Peru and was re-establishing her career here. Another year or so and she probably would've moved to Berkeley.

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Re:American Mercenaries Were Hired to Assassinate Politician... by Simon_says on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:35AM (#18236648)
> B) If 100% of your hobbies and life interests are gender-specific things that you can't talk about on dates, you might wanna branch out a little.

That's condescending. Maybe I choose my interests for my enjoyment rather than other peoples'.

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Re:American Mercenaries Were Hired to Assassinate Politician... by gscott on Tuesday October 16, 2018 @10:25PM (#18235565)
What I have learned about a first date is it is to try to get a second date. Try to be yourself but not to strange. If you are trying to act like someone else the woman sees right through it.
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