and then you carry the possibility of more possible events with you into every interaction. You have to become hyper-vigilant for even average workdays.

The 'event' is more than the time it takes to happen, it colors the rest of your interactions with a company. (Do the other people know? do they condone? Who is safe? if the initial event was minor, will that person escalate?)

exhausting.

this is both a reason for and against working at the same company as your spouse/partner, you get to hear all the fucked up shit going on in another part of the organization