Re:Update to Ask HN: What to do if I’m about to lose my job ...
by _zskd on Sunday October 07, 2018 @02:39PM
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I'm glad you are getting the help you need.
Michael Jordan has a coach. Programmers and other brain workers have therapists.
It's so obvious to me that having a neutral person who helps you track and set goals, track your moods, and help you process work relationships and events has a huge benefit.
But people ignore this! They are in this macho culture where you need to be self reliant and going to a therapist is weird and weak.
So instead of getting help, they place the burden on their friends and family and co-workers to tolerate and correct their shitty behavior.
Your friends or wife is not your therapist. They are not trained, are not impartial, and wouldn't you rather be having a good time then forcing them to listen to your constant whining?
I'm diagnosed bipolar and have gotten things under control with the help of a therapist WITHOUT medication. It's a powerful experience and a cheat-code to productivity.
Michael Jordan has a coach. Programmers and other brain workers have therapists.
It's so obvious to me that having a neutral person who helps you track and set goals, track your moods, and help you process work relationships and events has a huge benefit.
But people ignore this! They are in this macho culture where you need to be self reliant and going to a therapist is weird and weak.
So instead of getting help, they place the burden on their friends and family and co-workers to tolerate and correct their shitty behavior.
Your friends or wife is not your therapist. They are not trained, are not impartial, and wouldn't you rather be having a good time then forcing them to listen to your constant whining?
I'm diagnosed bipolar and have gotten things under control with the help of a therapist WITHOUT medication. It's a powerful experience and a cheat-code to productivity.