Re:Linus Torvalds: 'I'll never be cuddly but I can be more p...
by BeetleB on Thursday September 27, 2018 @10:45AM
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>Well, you ask for improvement and reject. You have to, because you don't want to accept it. That pisses the submitter off. What now?
The goal of better communication (in this case) is not to be the offensive asshole. It is not to ensure the other person isn't pissed off. I've pointed it out in earlier threads, but do try to read some good books on communication. While they do talk about phrases that lead to defensive behavior and how to avoid them, the focus is always on ensuring your perspective gets out, and i a way that is most likely to be heard.
As one book said "Do not make a metric how upset the other person becomes. That is giving too much control to the other party, and you have limited control over their behavior".
The goal of better communication (in this case) is not to be the offensive asshole. It is not to ensure the other person isn't pissed off. I've pointed it out in earlier threads, but do try to read some good books on communication. While they do talk about phrases that lead to defensive behavior and how to avoid them, the focus is always on ensuring your perspective gets out, and i a way that is most likely to be heard.
As one book said "Do not make a metric how upset the other person becomes. That is giving too much control to the other party, and you have limited control over their behavior".