What is the scenario where it is necessary for a leader to tell someone they should have been aborted?

Probably never. I think he should hire someone who checks his E-mails and asks him "Do you really want to send this?".

In any case, I find there is way too much focus on words instead of actions. It's the same in politics and in business. You have people who get nailed for cursing but the standard for company leadership seems to be to use nice words while at the same time stabbing people in the back. I would be more concerned if Linus physically abused people or laid off people with one day's notice "It's just business".

My parents joke about that with my brother and I; "Dammit jbob, we should have aborted you!". Jokes like these require context and when you look at them from the outside, they look terrible. It's not "necessary", but then again, neither is 90% of human communication, my parents could have just said "You. Bad action. Fix."

That seems to be what's missing from this whole SJW movement; context. These people watch from the sidelines, pick up on a few "trigger" words, and then burn your house down because they didn't understand the context of your comment.

Just because there are contexts where it wouldn't be bad doesn't mean that the example fits that narrow context.

You asked when it would be ok for a leader to tell someone they should be aborted and I gave you an example. Don’t throw away the example just because you don’t like it or it doesn’t fit your theory.

Absolutely. That doesn't mean you have to tell them you wish they were retroactively aborted.

Wow, you respond to a comment about false dichotomy by invoking the false dichotomy.

Correct. My point is that you can't always be nice. It works as little as always being abrasive.

But you gave the false dichotomy that to do that, you have to be an asshole. That's purely not true.