People who seek to hurt others will find that others don't want to work with them. Indignance will not change that fact. You cannot force people to put up with you; freedom of association is just as fundamental.

Nobody is being run out of a project over the slightest misstep; the first response to most issues will be communication, not bans. Bans from a project are the last resort, not the first. People who work in projects with codes of conduct don't go around afraid they're going to be booted.

Beyond that: what work do you need to do that you can't possibly accomplish without hurting people? It's really not hard.