To parent and others, with due respect, I assumed that the OP was a professional software developer, based on the phrasing about using software to pay bills. Coding on your own time is more so a hobby, but as soon as you try to make money from it, even consulting on the side, the hours pile up. There's opening your own business, contracting, soliciting clients, meetings, status updates... way more than just the programming aspect.

So in these cases, we talking coding as a hobby, or coding as a profession alongside medicine?