Re:Most Millennials are not on track when it comes to saving...
by dsnuh on Tuesday August 14, 2018 @12:44AM
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Yeah, I was pretty skilled too, and we had it all agreed to, and then the night before the appearance she decided she wanted $20K for my unvested RSUs and $5K for a house with no community property value because we had used some money from an inheritance she got to replace the AC two years before we split. That's when the attorneys got called, and the rest is history.
Your story sounds like most I have heard where no lawyers got involved. Hell hath no fury like a partner scorned (with a retainer).
Glad to hear that you made it out without exercising Mutually Assured Destruction. :)
No, we had a DIY divorce.
I'm actually a rather skilled negotiator in some sense, though I don't usually say so because I think that gives people a completely different idea than what I really mean. I mean more like diplomat or like the guy in the movie The Negotiator. [1]
We kept lawyers out of it and that meant there was more pie to go around because we weren't giving tens of thousands of dollars to lawyers. That made it easier for both of us to give a little here and there.
My divorce was surprisingly amicable, more so than my marriage. We agreed ahead of time that we were not going to leave either party in a shithole of financial mess. (I sometimes joke that if we hated each other and wanted to make each other miserable, we could have just stayed together. :-P)
I have been to his house once post divorce and met his new wife. His life seems to be pretty okay these days.
[1] https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0120768/