Re:Stop lying on stage
by JoeAltmaier on Monday October 04, 2010 @12:26PM
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"On Stage" is too public - you can torpedo yourself with one careless remark. You can't put your flaws in context, and they are likely to be taken wrong. Private conversations are exactly the right place to learn the real nitty-gritty.
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I completely agree.
When you have a private conversation with someone, you get a lot more of the shading and subtlety of their experiences.
In a public forum, people are most likely to share things that are safe. In private, people are more likely to share their opinions, impressions, and half formed ideas; all of which can change, but all of which give you the necessary context to form your own opinions.
If you shared everything publicly, I'm pretty sure you'd come off as some sort of a crank, flake, misanthrope or worse... Especially given the unforgiving nature of Internet memory.