Re:The intolerable rise of perfectionism
by s-shellfish on Wednesday July 18, 2018 @01:51PM
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There's a limit to what you can believe you have control over.
> If I don't have to care about hurting their feelings, they don't have to care about mine.
That's something you have to assume initially. The problem is it's only true over time. It's something that may be true at the moment of interaction, or it may be something that is true because of the interaction.
I may also end up doing harm to hurt person, either because my hurt will influence them to their detriment (they will internalize my angry outburst etc) or because of how third parties will perceive them due to what I say.
I did not meant retaliation as purely bad act on the side of hurt person. It may he just answering in kind. People who don't stand up to insults end up being bullied. If I don't have to care about hurting their feelings, they don't have to care about mine.