Re:The Power of Positive People
by itronitron on Tuesday July 17, 2018 @01:42AM
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You could be missing out on a valuable life-term relationship if you aren't willing to accommodate other people's needs for some assurance.
Or he could be dodging bullets. He's probably not looking for such a relationship. If he's not willing to accommodate, than not accommodating filters out the people who need accommodating... I'd say that is pretty much working as intended.
Re:The Power of Positive People
by ravenstine on Tuesday July 17, 2018 @10:15AM
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I don't know about him, but that describes me pretty well. As I've gotten older, I've been getting much more satisfaction out of doing things other than pursuing relationships. At this point, I just don't even care anymore. Well, okay, there's always going to be a shred of me that will think "what if" with some women that come in to my life, but I realize just how uncompromising I am and how that I will never change, and that trait really isn't fair to a partner in a relationship. If someone can accommodate me while I'm able to accommodate for them, then sure.
But until that happens, I'm really just fine being who I am and not being fraudulent by acting nice to keep the favor of family and friends.
If I forget to tell a new partner, now... we gave a great date and then she wants to start texting intensely, and feels I’m blowing her off and has resulted in anger over being led on/brushed off.
No loss on my part, but I always forget on my first few dates after some time off and it results in disappointment or worse on their part, seemingly needlessly.
Careful out there, fellow focus junkies.