Perhaps the anti-pattern to rule them all is that as things become easier to do, it gives more people the opportunity to do them badly. We have so many incredible tools, and simple but powerful high level languages that allow us to write apps without bothering with complicated stuff like assembler. However, these tools don’t mean that we get to ignore how CPUs work, and ORMs don’t mean that we get to ignore how data structures work, or how we’re supposed to operate on them.

I think you’re 100% right. ORMs are just tools, they can be used well or poorly. That’s up to the developer. As a former DBA, I also think they’re great tools. Aside from making the business logic easier to write, they also bring the business logic and the data closer together.