I guess it’s hard to pin down exactly :) I guess it’s a variation of ‘To thine own self be true’. For me, I think there tends to be a background process running which attempts to find the correct and socially acceptable thing to say. This is often not related to what I find to be true and important myself. It’s kind of a simulation of a simulation: I-perceive-that-what-I-perceive-are-people’s-intentions-is-answered-by-this-pattern-I-have-observed. It’s a habit and it’s a relief when it can be tuned down a bit.